Tuesday, July 16, 2019

EkLa Chaalo Re

Hi Radhika,

I don't know much about solo travelling by women , but I thought I could express something about solo travelling , so here I am , typing this down ...

Travelling is one of the most underrated human actions , which has the power to single handedly bring about a change in people , including in their way of thinking and perceiving life .  I see a lot of people , induldged in doing things in life , which they don't feel connected to  yet keep on doing due to sheer helplessness or due to societal pressures . The daily churn of of this monotonous schedule , sips out a portion of our zeal and freedom daily and by doing so repeatedly , we become more and more disconnected with our true self and natural instincts.

When I decided to go on my first solo trip , it was an impulsive decision taken in sheer frustration . Frustration from work, from family , from friends , from love , from myself and mostly from Life itself . I knew if I sat down planning for a trip , then I wouldn't be able to go on one , atleast not the kind of one which I was looking for .

The best thing about solo travelling is that you dont have to plan for others . I mean , all that matters is what kind of trip you want it to be . If you want a luxurious trip , you can have one , or if yoy want budget hike , the choice is completely yours . A solo trip starts with the very fundamental right of thinking and doing things the way you feel best fit with you . In a world of over the top formalities , when do you actually get the time to do something for you , just for  you , just only for you  and most importantly  by YOU ...

Travelling to unchartered territories is something that is ofcourse nerve pulsating so to speak , but it can open a window for your choked mind , from where you can see a perspective that most people loose in their daily struggles ( apart from some breath taking views also ) . No problem or issue is big enough in any of our lives , which can have the right to make us feel miserable and worried . Believe me , it might sound superficial and impractical , but its the truth . Solo travel , is not just like a tonic that you can take whenever you feel in need of a vacation , but it is the most easiest way of self motivation which nature has enabled us to experience , if only we can over come our inhibitions.

Humans were born as explorers and travellers , not as irresponsible tourists. In this age of virtual realities , we have forgotten this fact & oh boy how badly we have done that. With our cameras we intend to capture rather than experience, with our vehicles we tend to maul over  green pastures than to touch them with our bare feet , and with our needs we try to create an aura of physical comfort than to enjoy nature's raw beauty . I may be wrong in saying this , but its only when we are travelling alone , that we get to actually know about what all we miss when we travel in groups . The self introspection and self healing you can experience on lone travels is the best gift that nature offers us , and its only few of us , who actually see it and acknowledge it . Ofcourse a good picture is like a cherry on the top , but remember to have the cake first for yourself and not run blindly after the cherry.

Lastly, confidence , self confidence , one's true best friend in this world. Going on a solo trip , doesnt guarantee any physical result ( apart from shedding a few kilos ) for any individual . But what you gain , is perhaps your biggest asset in the world . Any number of self help books , praise heaping people around you, ego boosting awards and rewards , can help your confidence to grow exponentially than a solo trip. Dont get me wrong , but as an individual we all are alone . No matter how many friends we have , how nice are our families to us , how Passionate our lover is for us , ultimately there's one truth we cant run away from . You are alone. The sooner you realise , the sooner you can start taking it positively . Once you realise this , fear might be the impulsive reaction at first , but thats the first step forward to becoming a stronger person. The experiences you get on a solo travel , good or bad , shape you to be less dependent on anyone else than you . Physically , emotionally and mentally independent . Kings - Queens of your lives and Truly free from the things which are not meant for you .

As I have read somewhere , "dont be dependent on anyone , but be grounded and helpful for everyone " , so will up that courage of yours , and start exploring , life and You .